Justice Schanfarber – Marriage and relationship specialist, including sex and intimacy.
I serve clients worldwide by phone and skype. In-person counselling services for Campbell River and North Vancouver Island. Phone 778 996 3821.
Currently accepting new clients. Request an info package by email or call for a free, confidential 10-minute initial consultation.
Phone 778 996-3821
Marriage and Relationship Specialist
Relationships are complicated, but after nearly a decade of working intimately with hundreds of couples from all over the world, I’m able to recognize the patterns driving most marriages and relationships. Most people can’t see these unconscious relationship dynamics because they don’t know what to look for. Recognizing the hidden sources of conflict, disconnection, and resentment requires experience and a finely tuned eye. My work in the trenches has helped me develop an uncommon ability to see where a relationship is stuck, and what a couple needs to do to move it forward.
Client couples are often surprised at how quickly and thoroughly I am able to help them identify their key issues, and they experience a deep sense of relief at finally understanding the struggle they’ve been going through.
Conventional couples therapy and marriage counselling can rely too much on simply listening to a couple in trouble and offering generic advice. Many of my client couples have tried marriage counselling and couples therapy in the past, with disappointing results. Couples tell me that they are tired of being told to schedule date nights and to practice “empathy.” They know their problems run deeper than any simple fix, and they crave deeper insights and a more sophisticated understanding of the troubles they face in their relationship.
Counselling Philosophy and Approach
I take the position that discomfort shows up in our lives to “wake us up” to parts of ourselves that want attention. This discomfort can take the form of conflict, depression, anxiety and other unwelcome experiences that affect our personal lives, our relationships and our work. Many of us are able to manage these uncomfortable feelings for a time. Denial, blame, drugs and alcohol… our strategies are endless. But the time comes when the strategies no longer work. As Anais Nin poetically observed – “The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
As beautiful and affirming as the blossoming metaphor is, growth in real life can be difficult. Simply allowing ourselves to fully acknowledge what we’re going through can be frightening or even incomprehensible at first. Different people need different types of support on the path of healing and integration. My approach honours the differences in personality types and balances compassionate listening and mindful inquiry with bold truth-telling and action plans for change.
- Addictions and compulsive behavior
- Anger management
- Anxiety and depression
- Assertiveness and confidence
- Conflict resolution
- Divorce counselling
- Family and youth
- Grief and loss
- Life changes
- Relationships and marriage
- Sex and intimacy
- Trauma and abuse
- Other issues
Friendly and aware counselling for Kink/BDSM, LGBTQ, Polyamory, alternative relationships and lifestyles.
Additional Counselling Services:
Marriage Counselling (click to view)
Sex Therapy (click to view)
“The most powerful part of working with Justice is how he is right there in the trenches with you, really feeling through it with you, literally. I felt as though he was gently holding my heart in his hands, feeling everything I felt. I never felt observed, I felt experienced as a being. That was something completely new to me… it allowed me to go deeper, drop the fear, feel more, and completely release any pretense of self consciousness. I was able to unearth fears that had so long informed my life, I didn’t even realize they were there. My time speaking to him gave me tremendous insight about what was a core block, undermining the way I related to every aspect of my life, from family, to friend, to business, and to most profoundly, myself. The questions I uncovered while working with him are ones that I ask myself multiple times a day now. They honour an essential part of me too long hidden. Working with Justice illuminated an entire aspect of my being that was a nameless prisoner, until the day he helped me contract a plan for setting her free. Also, I found working over the phone to be surprisingly advantageous. I was able to maintain the physical privacy and comfort of working from where I was. It permitted me to be more present with my experience.” ~ Monica
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To schedule an appointment, request an info package, or learn more:
Justice Schanfarber, CHT
Campbell River Counselling Services
Phone 778 996-3821
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