Re-Inventing Sex – 8-week couples counselling intensive for sexual growth and healing

Re-Inventing SexSexual growth and healing – A special 8-week counselling intensive for couples.

Sessions by phone or Skype, available worldwide. Work from the comfort and convenience of your home.

Includes –

~ 90 minute weekly counselling sessions on a guaranteed time-slot (phone/skype).

~ Session recaps by email including key points, important themes.

~ Customized curriculum, personalized tools and practices to support your sexual growth and healing as individuals and as a couple.

~ Check-in calls or emails between your weekly sessions.

Email or call me directly to get an information package and get started. The package will include current pricing and all the other details you need to determine if the program is the right fit for you. Ask for the “Re-Inventing Sex 8-week Program.”

email: justice@justiceschanfarber.com
phone: 778 996-3821

About the Re-Inventing Sex 8-week Program –

Sex is simultaneously one of the most troublesome and the most rewarding parts of relationships. It can be the glue that helps hold us together, and it can also become the wedge that drives us apart. Sex is a deeply personal aspect of ourselves, and although the images and messages we get about sex tend to fit a very narrow and predictable narrative, our authentic sexuality, when uncovered, acknowledged, accepted, and understood, can be as unique as any other part of us.

In many marriages and relationships sex becomes a serious problem. The old way of doing it (or not doing it) is not working. Maybe desires have changed. Or resentments have grown. Perhaps shame or guilt is stifling your sex life. Or maybe the two of you have just changed, and you find yourself growing apart sexually.

When sex becomes a serious problem, a marriage or relationship will become threatened. A couple may not have the skills, role-models, knowledge, or support to effectively address their sexual issues, and without help the situation can start to feel hopelessly frustrating and painful.

Sex is, by nature, full of emotional triggers and complications. For many people, sex is associated with taboo, secrecy, shame, and confusion. Many couples have inadvertently created an atmosphere of silence or hostility within their sexual relationship.

Throughout this 8-week program I’ll help you examine your own relationship to sexuality, both as individuals and as a couple.

Sexual growth vs sexual healing –

Sexual growth and sexual healing… what are the differences? Why does it matter?

To grow sexually, we must be forward looking. We grow into the future, and so growth asks questions like “What do I want next? Where is my sexuality leading me? What kind of sexual future can I imagine?”

Sexual healing has us gazing backwards. Sexual wounds from the past sometimes require attention before we are able to grow forward.

Many approaches to working with sexuality fail to integrate and honour both growth and healing. In these cases, a hurry-up-and-move-forward attitude fails to attend to past wounds, while an obsession with trying to heal the past ignores opportunities for pushing forward.

Growth and healing are intertwined, and we will use wisdom and discernment to move back and forth between them appropriately.

Re-Inventing Sex –

The re-invention of sex within a relationship is simultaneously a task for two individuals, and for a couple. Confronting one’s own sexuality is deeply personal work, but in a relationship it happens in proximity to and within the influence of our partner. It’s a parallel yet intersecting journey. We have our own work to do, and we also end up collaborating and negotiating with, witnessing and impacting, our partner along the way.

This is a custom program tailored to your particular needs and preferences.
Topics we might cover include –

  • How to talk about sex and desire
  • Understanding sexual fantasies
  • Creating a safe space for sexual discussion and exploration
  • Sexual tools and practices
  • Facing shame, resentment and other obstacles to sex
  • Differences between love, sex, and intimacy
  • Eroticism and its relationship to sex
  • Sexual wounds and healing
  • Unconventional sex
  • Sexual negotiation and consent
  • Sexual beliefs and meaning

What makes this program special? Why work with me?

I’ve worked extensively with couples around their most intimate sexual experiences, fears, hopes, wounds, and desires. Nothing you share with me will shock or offend me. I value and understand sex, all sorts of sex, in a way that is uncommon, even among counselling professionals.

My own sexual journey has been wildly dynamic – alternately painful and exhilarating – and ultimately has been the source of great illumination. I bring a depth of personal experience and insight, both with the pleasure and the pain of sexuality to my work with clients.

I do not attach sex purely to biological impulse, nor do I burden it with spiritual or religious dogmas or language (although I am familiar with tantric and “sacred sex” ideas and practices). I have come to understand that sex – sexual impulses, fantasies, fears, desires – takes us right to the core of our being. Sex tells us extraordinary things about ourselves if we are willing to listen.

My counselling approach goes beyond typical cognitive models or intellectualizing. Sex is experienced in the body, and so our work includes the body (somatic work). Sex is emotional and relational, and so in this program we work emotionally and relationally. Sex is rooted in the moment, and so we work in real-time, not just talking about past and future, but also examining the experiences you’re having right now.

Sex is approached on its own terms in my counselling work and in this program. Your sexual self knows something about what it wants, and we need to listen and give it a voice. If we listen, and treat your sexual self with respect, without judgement, we open the door to the kind of sexual breakthroughs that transform lives and relationships.

The details –

This couples counselling intensive runs for 8 weeks and includes –

~ 90 minute weekly counselling sessions on a guaranteed time-slot (phone/skype).

~ Session recaps by email including key points, important themes.

~ Customized curriculum, personalized tools and practices to support your sexual growth and healing as individuals and as a couple.

~ Check-in calls or emails between your weekly sessions.

Email or call me directly to get an information package and get started. The package will include current pricing and all the other details you need to determine if the program is the right fit for you. Ask for the “Re-Inventing Sex 8-week Program.”

email: justice@justiceschanfarber.com
phone: 778 996-3821

I work with couples from across the cultural spectrum, from those who are very conventional in their sexuality, to those who are radically inclined, and everyone in-between. If you are ready to address the topic of sexuality in your marriage or relationship, I am willing and able to help you. I’m kink-friendly, LGBTQ-friendly, and poly-friendly, and I also welcome those with conservative sexual orientations and preferences.

I’m here to help. I’m straight-talking, non-judgemental, sensitive and compassionate, highly knowledgeable, and very experienced. I’m a valuable ally for couples who are ready to look at their sexual patterns, fears, and desires, and who want to re-invent their sexual relationship to each other and to their selves.

Campbell River Counselling - Justice Schanfarber - HakomiEmail or call me directly to get an information package and get started. The package will include current pricing and all the other details you need to determine if the program is the right fit for you. Ask for the “Re-Inventing Sex 8-week Program.”

email: justice@justiceschanfarber.com
phone: 778 996-3821

“You manage to remove all of the murky taboo and shame and replace it with emotional intelligence and a jumping off point for exploring the depths of sexuality. Thank you!” ~ Joni, Canada

“My partner and I have both grown in amazing ways over this past 6 months, and we find ourselves coming out of this growth stage still deeply attracted to the things that attracted us to one another 5 years ago. I have learned that as challenging as growth may be, it can be seen as a great gift. I could not have done this without your counseling and guidance. I am deeply grateful.” ~ Mark, USA

“The most powerful part of working with Justice is how he is right there in the trenches with you, really feeling through it with you, literally. I felt as though he was gently holding my heart in his hands, feeling everything I felt. Also, I found working over the phone to be surprisingly advantageous. I was able to maintain the physical privacy and comfort of working from my own home.” ~ Monica, USA

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