The person who has a shopping addiction and worries about money is creating tension. This tension is energy, and this energy animates their life.
The person who is having a secret affair is creating tension. This tension is energy, and this energy animates their life.
The couple who argue about their child are creating tension. This tension is energy, and this energy animates their lives.
Secrets, compulsions, dilemmas, conflicts, and worries all create tension. Tension is energy, and this energy animates life.
Animating your life (or relationship) with tension is surprisingly common. So common, that many people assume that it is normal. But tension is just one way to bring energy and color and shape to your life.
Tension and stress and anxiety become habituated into default patterns and normalized because they are fuel. When your nervous system becomes accustomed to that type of fuel, it seeks it out and creates it.
If you’d like to convert your nervous system to use another type of fuel, something more sustainable and cleaner burning, you’ll need to re-tool it. You’ll need to learn how to use peace or joy or relaxation or eagerness or contentment as an energy source for your life. These energies feel very different from tension, and the transition can take a bit of getting used to.
Fueling your life with contentment rather than irritation might even feel boring at first. Looking for things to feel good about rather than looking for things to feel bad about is a habit just like any habit, and it’s all changeable when there is a desire and willingness.
When you upgrade fuels, your whole system runs differently. It runs more smoothly, with an easier shifting of gears, with far less pollution, and without any sacrifice in speed or power. It’s a better ride overall. You’ll like it.
Making an inner energy transition to cleaner fuel benefits you and the people around. It will improve your life, the lives of your children, and the generations yet to come.
The Schanarber Method is designed to help you make this transition. If you like the idea of animating your life with a better feeling energy, I can help you implement the steps that make the idea a reality. Learn more about the method here.
In the act: Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction! Whether it’s a fragrant rose or a glass of Barolo, I like to go in deep.
I stopped drinking alcohol recently
I like my beer and my whiskey sours, but I love fine wines. I love my Italian Brunello and Nebbiolo. I was just getting into Burgundies and Spanish Fino and Priorat.
Vermentino, Grillo, Douro… there are endless wines to be discovered and enjoyed. My palette, and my personal wine collection, were becoming very nicely developed.
But for a few good reasons, I stopped. And you know what? It was easy.
When someone asks me if I crave it, I have to pause for a moment and remember what craving feels like because it has become so absent from my experience.
It was easy to stop drinking for one reason, and I want to explain it properly because it surprised and delighted me, and it provides a wonderful, real-life example of how The Schanfarber Method provides practical tools for health and well-being.
We are satisfaction-seeking creatures (and that’s a good thing)
Long before I stopped drinking, I had been intentionally building a broad repertoire of satisfactions. I had come to recognize, through my work as a coach and counselor mostly, that people are satisfaction-seeking creatures through-and-through.
Everything we want in this life is for the satisfaction we imagine it bringing. All that we want to do, be, or have is because we want to have the satisfaction of doing, being, or having it.
Satisfaction is a feeling, an emotion, and it is the common thread uniting all human desire and all human activity. A desire to feel satisfaction is at the heart of everything we want and everything we do.
The trouble is, we can get very fixated on particular forms of satisfaction. We want to feel satisfied from this and not from that. When our fixation on one kind of satisfaction squeezes out our receptivity to the other forms available, we call it addiction, and people can become addicted to just about anything.
One day I realized that I live in a world with an infinite variety of satisfactions constantly on offer to me. The world is always plying me with a continuous rainbow of assorted satisfactions and delights in every form imaginable.
It was a shocking realization. Even more shocking was the simultaneous realization of how narrow I had been in my willingness to receive satisfaction from anywhere but a handful of specific sources. I was starving myself, all the while sitting at the grandest buffet imaginable.
I made it my mission to enjoy as many of the satisfactions on offer as possible. I discovered, as we all do, that some forms of satisfaction come with a downside (for me that included drinking alcohol), and some are purely nourishing, with no cost and no downside whatsoever.
Three human operating systems
I also discovered that my satisfaction always flows to me through three primary channels, and I named these the three human operating systems – Cognition, Sensation, and Emotion.
As I realized that my satisfaction always comes through the channels of cognition, sensation, and emotion, I started experimenting with each, one by one. I began with cognition, with my thoughts.
I quickly discovered that some thoughts and some ways of thinking are satisfying, some are not. As my discernment of the difference between satisfying thoughts and unsatisfying thoughts became clear, my use of my cognitive apparatus became more refined and intentional.
I no longer allow my thoughts to wander toward unsatisfying topics. When I catch them early enough, it’s relatively easy to steer them. If they get away from me and gain momentum, it can take a little time for them to run their course, which they always do if I don’t fuss over them.
Satisfying thoughts get my attention and my attention gives them momentum, creating more satisfaction. Unsatisfying thoughts do not get more attention, and they fizzle out, making way for something better. That’s how it works.
Something similar happened as I turned this awareness to sensation in my body. Focusing on sensations that feel satisfying creates a cascade of further satisfaction. Pleasure, by the way, is another word for satisfaction. We can also call it joy, delight, happiness, or just plain old feeling good.
At the emotional level too, the same is revealed to be true. As I find the essence of a satisfying emotion or feeling, and give it my attention, it begins to expand. Only satisfying feelings get my attention now, and with that attention they grow.
Then I discovered that within each of these three operating systems or channels, infinite depths of subtlety can be accessed and enjoyed.
I had found breadths of satisfactions beyond anything before. Now I was finding the depths.
Surprisingly, the strength of my satisfaction does not diminish as the satisfaction becomes more subtle.
In fact, the opposite is true. As I find my way into subtler forms of thought, sensation, and emotion, the satisfaction also becomes subtler, but paradoxically, the more subtle the satisfaction, the more profound it becomes!
I suppose this shouldn’t be very surprising. Every good meditation teacher or traditional spiritual practice teaches this, but hearing it as words and as a concept is a lot different from feeling it as my lived experience.
The thing I liked best about wine was developing my palette so that I could detect and enjoy increasingly subtle aspects of the tasting experience. Terroir, acidity, tannin, vintage, varietals… there are endless subtleties to discover on the wine journey.
So why don’t I miss it?
Because now I recognize that the same thing is true for absolutely everything I enjoy.
And my life mission is to find a lot of things to enjoy.
I’ve even given this a playful name. I call it: Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction.
Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction
Every enjoyable experience that I engage through all three of my operating systems offers an endless depth of subtlety to be discovered. And because I’m always looking for new things to enjoy, I’m always finding them!
Whether it’s a leading edge idea, a lively conversation, a vivid walk in the forest, a beautiful meal, a relaxing or invigorating yoga flow, dancing, reading, breathing, rolling around on the floor, daydreaming, working, having a shower, having a nap, having sex… there’s no end to the subtle attunement and enjoyment available. It’s literally endless.
From my perspective today, it would be silly to miss drinking wine. My life is rich in a million and one ways. It would be like lamenting the loss of my favorite grain of sand or my cherished drop of water.
But the most important part of all this, the part I really want to share, is how beneficial it has been for me to Build a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction BEFORE I stopped drinking.
I now realize that Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is the single most empowering thing I can do for myself.
And it never ends.
And there’s no downside.
And hardly anyone is doing it.
That’s nuts. It’s the biggest, sweetest, ripest, juiciest, lowest hanging fruit, and it’s virtually ignored, even though there’s plenty for everyone!
Open thousands of windows – start now
It’s been said that when a door closes, a window opens. I have opened thousands of windows and I am opening thousands more. If a door closes I will never have a shortage of open windows because I have been opening so many in advance.
And here’s the most wonderful part: I haven’t opened them in preparation for coming hardship, I have opened them for the joy of it.
In the mental health field, words like “resilience” and “resourced” are the norm. Living joyfully happens to be the best way I know to build resilience and resourcefulness, but resilience and resourcefulness barely begin to describe the true benefits.
Resilience and resourcefulness are good, but wouldn’t you rather set your sights on exuberance, eagerness, inspiration, clarity, success, and delight? Thankfully you don’t have to choose.
Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction also happens to be your best protection against experiencing trauma or PTSD.
Trauma is subjective: the same experience for two people can be traumatizing for one but not the other. Researchers have found that one of the factors is a person’s baseline sense of well-being.
People who have established a solid sense of well-being in themselves, and who are enjoying high levels of satisfaction in diverse ways everyday are more resilient to trauma and PTSD. They’re also more likely to experience post-traumatic growth (PTG).
But don’t do it for that. Don’t enrich yourself with a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction because you want to brace yourself against tragedy.
Do it because it feels good – do it for the joy
Do it because it feels good right now. Do it because you care about how you feel. How you feel matters. It matters a lot. It matters most. You might have lost sight of this basic truth. Maybe no one taught you or supported you in this way, so let me be very clear: You are meant to live a life that feels mostly good, most of the time. That is your purpose and your highest potential.
Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is good protection against unwanted experiences, but don’t do it for that reason. Do it because you feel most purposeful when you are thriving. Do it because you love feeling yourself as creator of your life experience. Do it for the joy.
I help people worldwide embrace their desire to feel good, and Build a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction. If you’d like my help, request a client package by email. Please tell me a little bit about yourself in your email, and include your country of residence.
P.S. The only thing better than Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is doing it with your partner. My partner and collaborator Vanessa and I have been doing this together for four years and are reaping massive benefits in our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Check out my P2 Power Couple Coaching Programand my R3 Relationship Masterclass to learn more about creating synergy and alignment in a marriage or relationship.
For 800 years the Sufi poet and philosopher Rumi has been soothing seekers with his words, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.”
Have you thought about why the wound is where the light enters you?
And what the light actually is?
Here is the poem:
“I said: What about my eyes? He said: Keep them on the road.
I said: What about my passion? He said: Keep it burning.
I said: What about my heart? He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?
I said: Pain and sorrow. He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Another version finishes a little differently:
“Don’t turn your head. Keep looking at the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”
In this version it is not the wound itself, but the “bandaged place” that is emphasized.
Rumi seems to be saying that resisting or denying the wound, ignoring how we feel, and covering or bandaging the pain and sorrow that is held in the heart won’t help us. It might even create obstacles to the light entering us. But that’s just the beginning of the story.
The light, I like to believe, is the light of clarity. It is the illuminating light in which we can see ourselves clearly. It is the light of self-realization.
Why would pain and sorrow help us see ourselves clearly?
“Don’t turn your head. Keep looking…”
Even full of pain and sorrow, even covered with bandages, the light of clarity will come, if we don’t turn our head.
In the text, the first two questions are met with direct answers:
I said: What about my eyes? He said: Keep them on the road.
I said: What about my passion? He said: Keep it burning.
You know where you’re going, so keep going. You know what you want, so keep wanting. Simple enough.
Then it gets more interesting when the third question is met with another question:
I said: What about my heart? He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?
With your eyes on the road, and your passion burning, you’re prepared to allow for whatever you find in your heart. Oh, it’s pain and sorrow? That’s OK. Even pain and sorrow provide the light of clarity if you don’t resist.
So don’t panic. Stay with it. It will give way to the light of clarity, because the essence of who you are is NOT pain and sorrow, but joy. This is an important distinction.
Your pain and sorrow will lead you to the clarity of who you really are because EVERYTHING will lead you to the clarity of who you really are… if you let it.
It’s a hard way to get that light into you, and there are easier ways available, but it’s the way most people have been doing it for at least 800 years. It’s how I have done it too. There’s a reason we call it a “break-through”.
Twenty years of providing therapy showed me that many people will not “let the light enter”, will not surrender to the undeniable truth of their basic goodness, and will refuse to lay their burdens down, until the “pain and sorrow” in their heart breaks down their resistance.
Hence Rumi’s clear instruction, “Stay with it.”
OK. For how long?
Until the light gets in.
And then what?
I’m certain that Rumi did not intend to create a cult of eternal suffering. You’re not meant to worship the pain and sorrow in your heart forever, or to indulge an endless fascination with every wound. You’re instructed to “stay with it” until the realization of who you really are, the “Light”, can enter you.
Do not conflate suffering with light. They are not twinned. They have a dynamic relationship with one another, but this relationship is not a given, and is constantly evolving. You have a role in its evolution.
This light of clarity, of self-realization, is always right there illuminating your true essence as joy, showing it to you, ready to enter you in the moment you allow it.
Most people won’t allow it until they exhaust themselves with pain and sorrow. “Stay with it…”
What if the answer to the teacher’s question had been… Joy?
What if I said: “What about my heart?”
And he said: “Tell me what you hold inside it?”
And I said: “It’s full of joy.”
What would he say then?
Would he say, “Hm, you better go find some pain and sorrow, ‘cuz that’s where the light enters you.”
I don’t think so.
I think he might say: “Ah, you have allowed the light of clarity and self-realization to enter you. How wonderful. Welcome home. Are you enjoying this life as fully as you might? Have you discovered yet that there is no limit to your joy, and to the growth and discovery and expansion that joy provides?”
There’s a popular belief today, a very old and persistent belief actually, rooted in the religious dogmas of the ages, that joy and suffering are bound together in equal measure, and also that growth or reward is a product of struggle or sacrifice.
These are self-fulfilling truths for those who believe and enact them, but they are not absolute. Not even close.
Plenty of people are living joyful lives, colored with contrast of various sorts, but with little suffering. And plenty of people are benefiting from the exhilarating growth that comes with the choice to embrace joy.
Learning to recognize this choice, and then thrilling in the excitement of feeling yourself make the choice again and again, is the heart of The Schanfarber Method.
I call the method “An Embodied Psychology of Joy” because the actual embodied feeling of joy and the mental concept of joy are joined. Heart and head become aligned. Psyche befriends soma, and both find nourishment and strength.
Rumi knew that joy is our nature, and he knew that pain and sorrow will sometimes be part of our life experience, and that this provides valuable contrast, prompting us always to let the light in, to remember again our essence.
His words soothe those who have not yet come to fully realize their essence as joy, and encourage those who know better but have temporarily wandered into the weeds, as we all will from time to time, only to experience the satisfaction of returning, again and again, with “eyes on the road” and “passion burning”, to our true Self.
If you want nice things to flow easily to you, you must become an allower.
By nice things I mean clarity, inspiration, joy. I mean money, relationships, insight. I mean art, objects, health, relief, rest, success… basically anything you can want or imagine wanting.
There is so much available, on its way, waiting for you to allow.
As I write this on a clear January morning I pause for a full minute, closing my eyes, and allowing the sunlight spilling through the window to penetrate my eyelids. I allow myself to bask in the subtle warmth, and to appreciate the dazzling orange and yellow and red swimming before me.
I allow myself to feel the elevating effect on my mood, and I allow myself to enjoy that elevation without any reservation or doubt, or any hurry.
Then I allow myself to feel myself at the leading edge of a hundred thousand years of human beings finding satisfaction in the precise way I am allowing myself to find satisfaction in this very moment. Through my allowing, the feeling grows into a sense of belonging, coherence, and deep well-being.
All of this a product of my gentle allowing. None of this a product of force, hard work, problem solving, or sacrifice.
There’s so much richness and abundance hovering at the margins of my reality until the precise moment I decide to become a receiver of it and allow it to flow into my experience.
The job of allowing is easy and joyous. It’s so easy that some of the clients who seek me out are initially skeptical. Shouldn’t it be harder? Shouldn’t there be struggle first, and then reward? Is it even moral to receive so much without earning it?
My bio-hacker friends like explaining to me how our mitochondria have evolved to harness the sun’s energy and feed it to us, and I like hearing about these marvelous discoveries. I reflect on this perfect intelligence of evolution as I soak in the rays.
A minute later, I am back at work, writing this for you.
Every so often, at least once a day, I ask myself the same question; a prompt to help me get my vibe right, tune myself to the energy of receiving, and make myself an emotional match for the enjoyment, nourishment, satisfaction, and abundance that is my heart’s deepest desire.
This question, the prompt, is my invitation to myself to become more of an allower, right then and there.
Here’s the question I ask:
“If I suddenly accomplished all my goals, acquired everything that I want, and became successful in each of the ways that matter most to me, how would I spend the next minute?”
It’s an evocative question, and I respond earnestly and playfully. If I have fully satisfied all my goals, if all of my desires have been fulfilled… what now? Who will I be? How will I inhabit this moment?
The clarity comes, and it is the same every time. I already know the answer in my head, but I wait for the feeling of it to arise in my body.
I want to enjoy myself.
No, even better, I want to enjoy My Self. “Enjoying myself” can slip into an abstract concept, one step removed from my actual felt experience in the now. Enjoying “My Self” makes it real and present. Me enjoying Me.
My Self is the vehicle of the experience I am having, and I want to enjoy not only the experience, but the vehicle allowing the experience too. My Self.
I have a Self that wants to be enjoyed, and it wants to be enjoyed by Me, and I want to feel My Self as the Me enjoying the Self that wants to be enjoyed.
Self enjoying Self. The gap between the one who wants and the one who has, between giver and receiver is finally bridged. I am the bridge, and I feel it, and it feels good. It feels really good.
I want to feel good. If I had accomplished all my goals, and become successful in each of the ways that matter most to me, I would want to take a minute and feel really good. Satisfied. Nourished. Triumphant. Proud. Excited. Relaxed. Successful. Full. Abundant.
If I had accomplished all my goals, and become successful in each of the ways that matter most to me, I would bask in the subtle sensations of Me-ness in this very moment, and I would take in as much satisfaction as I possibly could.
And so that’s what I do each time I ask myself this question. And each time it becomes even better. Even more.
It’s become a bit like drinking from a firehose, in the best possible sense. There’s no way I could become a channel for all of the joy and wonder and delight and satisfaction that wants to flow in me, but it’s fun to try. And as I repeat this process I feel my capacity for embodying all that good stuff expand.
Through many years of doing counseling and coaching work, I’ve discovered that each of us has a limit on how much exuberance and joy and satisfaction we can handle at one time. At a certain point it becomes too much, like a circuit breaker switching off, and some people reach that threshold quickly.
But that limit can be expanded, that capacity can be increased through desire and intention and practice and repetition, and I know of nothing that feels better than feeling that capacity grow over time, and knowing that I did that for myself because I love My Self that much and I want to enjoy My Self as much as I can in this blessed life, in this blessed body.
That’s how I felt a few moments ago when I closed my eyes and allowed the feeling of the sun to delight me and connect me to the richness of my life. And that’s how I feel now as I continue to write this for you.
My allowing of that previous moment has flowed into this moment, and will flow into the next moment. I continue to feel joyous, wondrous, enriched, and energized, and I expect it will continue because that’s how it works. I know this now first-hand.
Because I take a moment now and then to play this little game with myself, I have built some momentum with the feeling it creates. It doesn’t take much to get that momentum going again whenever I want, and once it’s going it wants to keep going because it feels good. My job is simply to allow it, and to enjoy it.
The enjoyment step is most important. Don’t skip the enjoyment. Skipping the enjoyment strips the whole project of value. Your enjoyment is the point. Everyone who is connected to themselves in any substantial way knows this. Your enjoyment of Your Self is the cleanest burning, cheapest, most sustainable fuel for animating your life.
Allow.
Enjoy.
Repeat.
Sometimes when I talk about allowing, people confuse it with a kind of tolerating. Allowing is not tolerating. Tolerating is a word we use to justify letting something unwanted into our experience. That’s not the only meaning of tolerate, but it’s the one I want to address here.
The person who goes to work in a hostile workplace learns to tolerate. The person who grew up with neglectful or abusive parents learns to tolerate. The person in a stale, loveless relationship learns to tolerate.
People who become good at tolerating unwanted experiences tend to lose connection to their easy relationship to wanting, and to constrict their allowing of nice things to come to them. The energy of tolerating is very different from the energy of allowing.
The problem with too much tolerating is that it necessarily comes with a lot of self-protection. People who are in tolerating mode must protect themselves from the unwanted feelings that come with enduring the unwanted experience. This is done through desensitizing: numbing and hardening the senses, including emotional sensitivity. The very substance of your inner guidance and your life purpose becomes deadened and denuded.
This emotional self-protection is like armor, and it keeps out the wanted along with the unwanted. The strategy might seem like it is working for a time, but eventually the downside catches up.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Even if you find yourself in an unwanted situation that you must tolerate (we all will sometimes), you can decide to allow nourishment and satisfaction to reach you in some form. You can remain connected to the most lively part of yourself. You can re-start your emotional apparatus and regain access to feeling. You can learn the art of emotional discernment so that it doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing.
How to do this?
Consider my story of sunlight from just a few minutes ago. The world (including your inner world of thought and feeling and sensation and imagination) is full of wondrous and satisfying phenomena, poised, waiting to stream into your life experience in every moment.
Look for the simplest example of this available to you right now. You’ll need to let feeling be your guide, which means letting down your guard. For me, it was noticing the brightness of the January sun. It could also be the feeling of sitting up straight or breathing more deeply or feeling your love for something or someone. It might be appreciating the texture of bark on a tree that you walk past every day. At its best, it always becomes
Once you get the hang of it you’ll realize it’s the simplest thing you’ve ever done for yourself, and you’ll probably want to share it with everyone you care about.
Allowing nice things to flow easily to you starts with allowing good feelings to become active in you, and you can learn to do this in all sorts of circumstances or conditions if you are willing to find satisfaction and enjoyment in your inner experience in the moment, without insisting that your outer circumstances change immediately.
Rest assured that your outer circumstances will change over time if you decide to allow for inner enjoyment and satisfaction first. It just takes a little time for all the physical, outer parts of your experience – the people, places, things – to catch up and begin to reflect the changes you’ve made inwardly at the level of emotion or feeling. All that physical matter tends to operate more slowly than the lightweight, nimble energy within.
Please understand that the kind of allowing I am talking about must be felt as physical sensation if it is to deliver real enjoyment and satisfaction.
You might like the ideas I am offering here, and the ideas are very good, but they are symbols of the experience, not the experience itself. At some point you must evolve the good ideas into actual felt experience if you are to answer the call of your heart’s desire and fulfill your deeper purpose, which is not to find satisfaction only in ideas, but to apply them in practice and receive the benefit physically.
To use my earlier example, if I take a minute to close my eyes and notice the heat of the sun on my face and the colors swimming behind my eyelids, but I allow myself to feel nothing, then there is not much value.
There’s not much value because there’s not much satisfaction. Not much enjoyment. Not much feeling. The value is all in the feeling of satisfaction and enjoyment, not in the idea of it. Many people are unsure of the difference. Find the difference for yourself.
Many of the hundreds of clients I’ve had the privilege of knowing force themselves to meditate or journal or exercise or do yoga, but they take no enjoyment in it. They do it because it’s supposed to be a good or healthy or helpful thing to do, and they hope that one day it delivers some benefit.
I had a daily meditation practice for years that I did not particularly enjoy, but that did provide some benefit. It helped me relax. Helped me clear my mind. Helped me feel some inner peace and connection. But once I decided to allow My Self to enjoy that time sitting quietly with My Self, it became electric. I could feel the actual pleasure in it and the benefits became pronounced and real.
Pleasure. That’s a word I haven’t used yet in this story, but it’s a good word to include. Enjoyment is pleasure. Satisfaction is pleasure. Clarity is pleasure. Flow, inspiration, love, connection, ease… all synonymous with pleasure, and all related to the body.
Some people are uncomfortable with the word pleasure. It activates resistance or sadness or even anger. I’ve seen lots of this in my counseling practice. There’s always a good explanation, always some negative association with the word, established from some unwanted experience in the past.
If you want to become an allower of nice things to flow into your experience, it will benefit you to befriend pleasure; the word, the idea, and the actual experience in its physical forms.
If you want to learn more about allowing, about becoming a channel for pleasure and nourishment and satisfaction, I can help.
I can explain it more fully, answer your questions, lead you through the embodied processes that make it real. I do this through a series of weekly scheduled calls. Email me to request a client package if you’re interested.
I’ve also put together a free audio course. The Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery is a series of audio recordings that describe the process of becoming an allower of all things satisfying and delightful. It includes guided embodiment exercises to help bridge the gap between the idea of allowing and the actual experience of it.
There are 30 one-minute meditations too. Use them daily to support your success, satisfaction, and well-being as you learn this life skill and begin putting it to practical use and enjoying what it provides.
There is nothing more practical than feeling good. Feeling good is the reward of a good life, and the inspiration for a good life. It is the foundation of well-being, and both the product and the engine of 14 billion years of evolution.
No matter your current circumstances, you can start to allow more of your evolutionary inheritance into your life experience with just the ideas proposed here, and a few simple practices.
