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I stopped drinking and it was easy because of this one thing

In the act: Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction! Whether it’s a fragrant rose or a glass of Barolo, I like to go in deep.
I stopped drinking alcohol recently

I like my beer and my whiskey sours, but I love fine wines. I love my Italian Brunello and Nebbiolo. I was just getting into Burgundies and Spanish Fino and Priorat.

Vermentino, Grillo, Douro… there are endless wines to be discovered and enjoyed. My palette, and my personal wine collection, were becoming very nicely developed.

But for a few good reasons, I stopped. And you know what? It was easy.

When someone asks me if I crave it, I have to pause for a moment and remember what craving feels like because it has become so absent from my experience.

It was easy to stop drinking for one reason, and I want to explain it properly because it surprised and delighted me, and it provides a wonderful, real-life example of how The Schanfarber Method provides practical tools for health and well-being.

We are satisfaction-seeking creatures (and that’s a good thing)

Long before I stopped drinking, I had been intentionally building a broad repertoire of satisfactions. I had come to recognize, through my work as a coach and counselor mostly, that people are satisfaction-seeking creatures through-and-through.

Everything we want in this life is for the satisfaction we imagine it bringing. All that we want to do, be, or have is because we want to have the satisfaction of doing, being, or having it.

Satisfaction is a feeling, an emotion, and it is the common thread uniting all human desire and all human activity. A desire to feel satisfaction is at the heart of everything we want and everything we do.

The trouble is, we can get very fixated on particular forms of satisfaction. We want to feel satisfied from this and not from that. When our fixation on one kind of satisfaction squeezes out our receptivity to the other forms available, we call it addiction, and people can become addicted to just about anything.

One day I realized that I live in a world with an infinite variety of satisfactions constantly on offer to me. The world is always plying me with a continuous rainbow of assorted satisfactions and delights in every form imaginable.

It was a shocking realization. Even more shocking was the simultaneous realization of how narrow I had been in my willingness to receive satisfaction from anywhere but a handful of specific sources. I was starving myself, all the while sitting at the grandest buffet imaginable.

I made it my mission to enjoy as many of the satisfactions on offer as possible. I discovered, as we all do, that some forms of satisfaction come with a downside (for me that included drinking alcohol), and some are purely nourishing, with no cost and no downside whatsoever.

Three human operating systems

I also discovered that my satisfaction always flows to me through three primary channels, and I named these the three human operating systems – Cognition, Sensation, and Emotion.

I explain them in detail in my R3 Relationship Masterclass and in module three of my Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery course.

As I realized that my satisfaction always comes through the channels of cognition, sensation, and emotion, I started experimenting with each, one by one. I began with cognition, with my thoughts.

I quickly discovered that some thoughts and some ways of thinking are satisfying, some are not. As my discernment of the difference between satisfying thoughts and unsatisfying thoughts became clear, my use of my cognitive apparatus became more refined and intentional.

I no longer allow my thoughts to wander toward unsatisfying topics. When I catch them early enough, it’s relatively easy to steer them. If they get away from me and gain momentum, it can take a little time for them to run their course, which they always do if I don’t fuss over them.

Satisfying thoughts get my attention and my attention gives them momentum, creating more satisfaction. Unsatisfying thoughts do not get more attention, and they fizzle out, making way for something better. That’s how it works.

Something similar happened as I turned this awareness to sensation in my body. Focusing on sensations that feel satisfying creates a cascade of further satisfaction. Pleasure, by the way, is another word for satisfaction. We can also call it joy, delight, happiness, or just plain old feeling good.

At the emotional level too, the same is revealed to be true. As I find the essence of a satisfying emotion or feeling, and give it my attention, it begins to expand. Only satisfying feelings get my attention now, and with that attention they grow.

Then I discovered that within each of these three operating systems or channels, infinite depths of subtlety can be accessed and enjoyed.

I had found breadths of satisfactions beyond anything before. Now I was finding the depths.

Surprisingly, the strength of my satisfaction does not diminish as the satisfaction becomes more subtle.

In fact, the opposite is true. As I find my way into subtler forms of thought, sensation, and emotion, the satisfaction also becomes subtler, but paradoxically, the more subtle the satisfaction, the more profound it becomes!

I suppose this shouldn’t be very surprising. Every good meditation teacher or traditional spiritual practice teaches this, but hearing it as words and as a concept is a lot different from feeling it as my lived experience.

The thing I liked best about wine was developing my palette so that I could detect and enjoy increasingly subtle aspects of the tasting experience. Terroir, acidity, tannin, vintage, varietals… there are endless subtleties to discover on the wine journey.

So why don’t I miss it?

Because now I recognize that the same thing is true for absolutely everything I enjoy.

And my life mission is to find a lot of things to enjoy.

I’ve even given this a playful name. I call it: Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction.

Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction

Every enjoyable experience that I engage through all three of my operating systems offers an endless depth of subtlety to be discovered. And because I’m always looking for new things to enjoy, I’m always finding them!

Whether it’s a leading edge idea, a lively conversation, a vivid walk in the forest, a beautiful meal, a relaxing or invigorating yoga flow, dancing, reading, breathing, rolling around on the floor, daydreaming, working, having a shower, having a nap, having sex… there’s no end to the subtle attunement and enjoyment available. It’s literally endless.

From my perspective today, it would be silly to miss drinking wine. My life is rich in a million and one ways. It would be like lamenting the loss of my favorite grain of sand or my cherished drop of water.

But the most important part of all this, the part I really want to share, is how beneficial it has been for me to Build a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction BEFORE I stopped drinking.

I now realize that Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is the single most empowering thing I can do for myself.

And it never ends.

And there’s no downside.

And hardly anyone is doing it.

That’s nuts. It’s the biggest, sweetest, ripest, juiciest, lowest hanging fruit, and it’s virtually ignored, even though there’s plenty for everyone!

Open thousands of windows – start now

It’s been said that when a door closes, a window opens. I have opened thousands of windows and I am opening thousands more. If a door closes I will never have a shortage of open windows because I have been opening so many in advance.

And here’s the most wonderful part: I haven’t opened them in preparation for coming hardship, I have opened them for the joy of it.

In the mental health field, words like “resilience” and “resourced” are the norm. Living joyfully happens to be the best way I know to build resilience and resourcefulness, but resilience and resourcefulness barely begin to describe the true benefits.

Resilience and resourcefulness are good, but wouldn’t you rather set your sights on exuberance, eagerness, inspiration, clarity, success, and delight? Thankfully you don’t have to choose.

Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction also happens to be your best protection against experiencing trauma or PTSD.

Trauma is subjective: the same experience for two people can be traumatizing for one but not the other. Researchers have found that one of the factors is a person’s baseline sense of well-being.

People who have established a solid sense of well-being in themselves, and who are enjoying high levels of satisfaction in diverse ways everyday are more resilient to trauma and PTSD. They’re also more likely to experience post-traumatic growth (PTG).

But don’t do it for that. Don’t enrich yourself with a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction because you want to brace yourself against tragedy.

Do it because it feels good – do it for the joy

Do it because it feels good right now. Do it because you care about how you feel. How you feel matters. It matters a lot. It matters most. You might have lost sight of this basic truth. Maybe no one taught you or supported you in this way, so let me be very clear: You are meant to live a life that feels mostly good, most of the time. That is your purpose and your highest potential.

Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is good protection against unwanted experiences, but don’t do it for that reason. Do it because you feel most purposeful when you are thriving. Do it because you love feeling yourself as creator of your life experience. Do it for the joy.

I help people worldwide embrace their desire to feel good, and Build a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction. If you’d like my help, request a client package by email. Please tell me a little bit about yourself in your email, and include your country of residence.

All My Best,
Justice Schanfarber
Teacher, Coach, and Founder at The Schanfarber Method

P.S. The only thing better than Building a Massive Repertoire of Subtle Enjoyment and Satisfaction is doing it with your partner. My partner and collaborator Vanessa and I have been doing this together for four years and are reaping massive benefits in our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Check out my P2 Power Couple Coaching Program and my R3 Relationship Masterclass to learn more about creating synergy and alignment in a marriage or relationship.

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A Riff on Rumi: The Wound and the Light that Enters

Photo: Ross Gudgeon, “Fractal Forest”

For 800 years the Sufi poet and philosopher Rumi has been soothing seekers with his words, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.”

Have you thought about why the wound is where the light enters you?

And what the light actually is?

Here is the poem:

“I said: What about my eyes?
He said: Keep them on the road.

I said: What about my passion?
He said: Keep it burning.

I said: What about my heart?
He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?

I said: Pain and sorrow.
He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”

Another version finishes a little differently:

“Don’t turn your head. Keep looking at the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”

In this version it is not the wound itself, but the “bandaged place” that is emphasized.

Rumi seems to be saying that resisting or denying the wound, ignoring how we feel, and covering or bandaging the pain and sorrow that is held in the heart won’t help us. It might even create obstacles to the light entering us. But that’s just the beginning of the story.

The light, I like to believe, is the light of clarity. It is the illuminating light in which we can see ourselves clearly. It is the light of self-realization.

Why would pain and sorrow help us see ourselves clearly?

“Don’t turn your head. Keep looking…”

Even full of pain and sorrow, even covered with bandages, the light of clarity will come, if we don’t turn our head.

In the text, the first two questions are met with direct answers:

I said: What about my eyes?
He said: Keep them on the road.

I said: What about my passion?
He said: Keep it burning.

You know where you’re going, so keep going. You know what you want, so keep wanting. Simple enough.

Then it gets more interesting when the third question is met with another question:

I said: What about my heart?
He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?

With your eyes on the road, and your passion burning, you’re prepared to allow for whatever you find in your heart. Oh, it’s pain and sorrow? That’s OK. Even pain and sorrow provide the light of clarity if you don’t resist.

So don’t panic. Stay with it. It will give way to the light of clarity, because the essence of who you are is NOT pain and sorrow, but joy. This is an important distinction.

Your pain and sorrow will lead you to the clarity of who you really are because EVERYTHING will lead you to the clarity of who you really are… if you let it.

It’s a hard way to get that light into you, and there are easier ways available, but it’s the way most people have been doing it for at least 800 years. It’s how I have done it too. There’s a reason we call it a “break-through”.

Twenty years of providing therapy showed me that many people will not “let the light enter”, will not surrender to the undeniable truth of their basic goodness, and will refuse to lay their burdens down, until the “pain and sorrow” in their heart breaks down their resistance.

Hence Rumi’s clear instruction, “Stay with it.”

OK. For how long?

Until the light gets in.

And then what?

I’m certain that Rumi did not intend to create a cult of eternal suffering. You’re not meant to worship the pain and sorrow in your heart forever, or to indulge an endless fascination with every wound. You’re instructed to “stay with it” until the realization of who you really are, the “Light”, can enter you.

Do not conflate suffering with light. They are not twinned. They have a dynamic relationship with one another, but this relationship is not a given, and is constantly evolving. You have a role in its evolution.

This light of clarity, of self-realization, is always right there illuminating your true essence as joy, showing it to you, ready to enter you in the moment you allow it.

Most people won’t allow it until they exhaust themselves with pain and sorrow. “Stay with it…”

What if the answer to the teacher’s question had been… Joy?

What if I said: “What about my heart?”

And he said: “Tell me what you hold inside it?”

And I said: “It’s full of joy.”

What would he say then?

Would he say, “Hm, you better go find some pain and sorrow, ‘cuz that’s where the light enters you.”

I don’t think so.

I think he might say: “Ah, you have allowed the light of clarity and self-realization to enter you. How wonderful. Welcome home. Are you enjoying this life as fully as you might? Have you discovered yet that there is no limit to your joy, and to the growth and discovery and expansion that joy provides?”

There’s a popular belief today, a very old and persistent belief actually, rooted in the religious dogmas of the ages, that joy and suffering are bound together in equal measure, and also that growth or reward is a product of struggle or sacrifice.

These are self-fulfilling truths for those who believe and enact them, but they are not absolute. Not even close.

Plenty of people are living joyful lives, colored with contrast of various sorts, but with little suffering. And plenty of people are benefiting from the exhilarating growth that comes with the choice to embrace joy.

Learning to recognize this choice, and then thrilling in the excitement of feeling yourself make the choice again and again, is the heart of The Schanfarber Method.

I call the method “An Embodied Psychology of Joy” because the actual embodied feeling of joy and the mental concept of joy are joined. Heart and head become aligned. Psyche befriends soma, and both find nourishment and strength.

Rumi knew that joy is our nature, and he knew that pain and sorrow will sometimes be part of our life experience, and that this provides valuable contrast, prompting us always to let the light in, to remember again our essence.

His words soothe those who have not yet come to fully realize their essence as joy, and encourage those who know better but have temporarily wandered into the weeds, as we all will from time to time, only to experience the satisfaction of returning, again and again, with “eyes on the road” and “passion burning”, to our true Self.

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Best life goal for the new year?

Here’s a life goal for the new year and beyond: Look for the next way you can be nice to yourself, then repeat. Do it again. Keep at it. Never stop.

If this became a way of life, your personal modus operandi, what do you think you would discover? What could you accomplish?

First you might discover that you are other-than-nice to yourself in many ways, and that you justify this in many ways. If you’re like virtually every other person around you, you would discover that you try to motivate yourself with other-than-nice thoughts and feelings about yourself, others, and the world.

You might see how you use fear to try and motivate yourself to do things you don’t really want to do. You might see through all the little games and stories you use to keep yourself going through the motions, laboring at tasks big and small that do not reflect your heart’s true desires.

If you took your new life goal seriously – look for the next way you can be nice to yourself, then repeat – you might become very indulgent with yourself for a time, binge watching shows, overeating in your pajamas, using AI for pointless distractions.

And you would probably quickly discover that none of these things are very satisfying. They are pseudo-satisfactions, flimsy fakes, insubstantial proxies for the real thing. You would start to ask –

“What actually feels good to me?”

“What do I actually want?”

“How do I want to be spending my time, using my energy, engaging this world, and living my life?”

And then you would set off on the path of discovering the answers to these essential questions. You would start to notice the difference between being genuinely nice to yourself (that is, giving yourself what you actually want most) and being other-than-nice to yourself (with-holding or distracting yourself from that which you actually want most).

Probably you would discover that being truly nice to yourself – allowing yourself to have what you want most – is a moving target, an ever-evolving game of hide and seek. You might notice that this game can either be really fun or really frustrating. If you’re very insightful, you might recognize that this choice – will it be fun or will it be frustrating – is your choice to make, and that you’ve been making it all along.

The decision to be always looking for the next way to be nice to yourself, and to enjoy this fun game, is a decision to be exquisitely present to yourself in each moment. This presence is required if you are going to move out of the default patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior that you developed before you knew what you were doing, and start creating new patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior based on intention – an intention to enjoy being nice to yourself in this moment, and this moment, and this, and this – until your life becomes a steady stream of delightful moments delivering deeply satisfying and genuinely pleasurable experiences one after another.

You can be nice to yourself through three main channels: doing, feeling, and thinking.

You can do things that are nice to yourself. Take a bath. Eat good food. Get rest. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Write yourself love letters.

Doing nice things for yourself is how most people initially conceive of this idea of being nice to yourself.

But at more subtle levels, it is how you feel about yourself and how you think about yourself that is most powerful. Start noticing your inner dialogues, and start telling yourself better feeling stories about yourself, others, and the world. Let being nice to yourself be as much about your thoughts and feelings as your actions.

When all three channels are aligned – what you do for yourself, how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself – you will have maximum creative leverage. You will start to imagine… then anticipate… then experience a life that is a true reflection of the desires and wisdom of your heart, your body, and your mind.

But don’t take my word for it. Try it for yourself. Have some fun with it. Experiment. I can’t think of any downside (except that some people won’t know what to make of you).

If you decide today (or tomorrow, or the next day) to begin treating yourself in the way I am describing, I am certain that you can create more of what you want in the new year with less effort and more enjoyment than ever before. Even if I do not know you personally, I want this for you.

As always,

All My Best,
Justice Schanfarber

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Addiction, Compulsion, and the Art of Becoming Satisfied

Addiction, Compulsion, and the Art of Becoming Satisfied
Getting Whole

I recently read an interview with Garth Mullins, a former heroin user and long-time harm reduction advocate, and now a published author writing about his experiences.

Mullins explained that using opioids was, for him, never about getting high or getting wasted. It was about feeling WHOLE. It was wholeness that he was seeking, and opioids delivered the feeling.

I very much appreciated his candor and clarity about a desire for wholeness being at the root of his substance use. I had never heard anyone articulate it quite like that, and it made a lot of sense to me.

A new perspective on addiction

Addictive or obsessive behaviors, whether clinically diagnosed or popularly defined, all have one thing in common:

An insistence that satisfaction come from one narrow source.

Whether the addiction is drugs, sex, scrolling, status, money, food, gambling or anything else, it is always a search for satisfaction, and being very specific, to the point of exclusivity, about where you will obtain it… “I want to feel satisfied, and it must come from HERE.”

Garth Mullins called it “getting whole”, but for some people it’s getting love. For others it is success. Someone else might think of it in terms of belonging.

It’s emotional

In each case, the satisfaction being sought is emotional in nature. This is important to note, and it often gets overlooked. Consider:

Every single thing you want in this life is for the feeling you believe it will deliver.

Human beings are eternal seekers of satisfaction and we seek it in endlessly diverse ways. We know we’ve found it only by how we feel.

I know I am satisfied when I FEEL satisfied.
I know I am whole when I FEEL whole.
I know I am loved when I FEEL loved.
I know I am good when I FEEL good.
I know I am successful when I FEEL successful.

The satisfaction that each of us is constantly seeking can never be determined by others or by any objective measure.

No experience can truly satisfy until we allow our satisfaction to be fully subjective and within our own sovereign control. In other words, until we allow our satisfaction to be unconditional, a choice we make for ourselves, we will be constantly chasing it, eternally unsatisfied.

This has powerful (and empowering) implications, and I talk more about it in my free audio course, The Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery.

Satisfaction takes many forms

Significance, meaning, accomplishment, forgiveness, pleasure, fun, validation, understanding, entertainment, peacefulness, adventure, contentedness… These are all words to describe some of the various flavors of satisfaction that are available in this life.

The desire for satisfaction keeps us active and animated, inspired and motivated, creative and engaged.

Our endless desire for satisfaction can also be a way of torturing ourselves and keeping us at arm’s length from ever “arriving”.

Learning to allow

If we consider that addiction is, in one sense, the insistence that satisfaction come from one single source, then our understanding and treatment of addiction can expand. It becomes less about trying to break a habit and more about learning to allow satisfaction to reach us in a broader variety of forms. This is one way the grip of addiction can be loosened.

We do this by changing how we engage with the world and with ourselves. It’s helpful to recognize that all of our engagement with the world and with ourselves is done through three primary “operating systems” or aspects of self:

  • Cognition (the thinking self)
  • Sensation (the somatic self)
  • Emotion (the feeling self)

This understanding gives us direction and context for transforming how we think, feel, and behave. Again, I cover this topic extensively and provide helpful tools in my free course.

A world full of satisfying experiences

The reality is that we live in an incredibly satisfying world. At least, potentially. The world has literally evolved countless ways to satisfy us, to provide nourishment and beauty and engagement and wonder and belonging. From sunsets to birdsong, to satin textiles and musical scales. Spices and flavors, colors and sounds, textures and patterns. The five physical senses alone can provide an infinite amount of satisfaction to anyone who is willing to allow themselves to be easily satisfied.

Buddhist philosophies and practices teach us to find satisfaction in the mere rhythm of the breath, in the simple awareness of Being. It doesn’t get much more basic than that.

And then there is the mind. The imagination. And emotion. All providing endless possibility for satisfying experiences. But most people are not using their mind in satisfying ways. They aren’t using their imagination in satisfying ways. And they aren’t using their most powerful resource, emotion, in satisfying ways.

And so they become narrow in their pursuit of satisfaction. They become insistent, grasping, desperate, and often despondent.

They forget that they are intrinsically whole, and so they go looking for wholeness.

An impossible task

In my R3 Relationship Masterclass I call this the “impossible task”, and I make the bold assertion that you are already everything you seek. You can not find wholeness in a relationship (or a substance, or a device, or anywhere else) because you are already whole. You ARE that which you seek, always. This realization is liberating.

You can find a reflection of your wholeness in any number of experiences or phenomena, but these experiences or phenomena are not the source of your wholeness. That comes from within, and until you recognize and enjoy this truth, you will remain largely unsatisfied.

Garth Mullins “found” his wholeness when he injected heroin, but that isn’t exactly true, is it?

An opioid might relax your resistance or temporarily dissolve the emotional or mental obstacles that you’ve put between you and your direct connection to your wholeness, but it isn’t the “real thing”, and it comes with some obvious downsides.

Surprisingly, the biggest downside might not be the physical dangers. The biggest downside might be that using a substance to “get whole” reinforces the erroneous belief that your wholeness is conditional, something to seek. It is not. Your wholeness is unconditional. It is your intrinsic nature and the essence of your being. It is your existential foundation. It is the real and authentic you. It is always there for you to enjoy in every moment that you are willing to recognize it.

Joy and well-being are your nature

Most of us are not using heroin, but nearly all of us are going about seeking our satisfaction in narrow and desperate ways. Very few of us are keenly attuned to the easy joy and well-being that is our true nature.

Becoming keenly attuned in this way means becoming more aligned with the deeper realities of life and what it provides. It means becoming more subtle in our sensibilities, and more willing to receive.

Satisfaction abounds in this world, but it can only find its way to you when you stop blocking it and decide to allow it in. You have choice in this matter of feeling satisfied, and it’s up to you to use it.

It isn’t hard work

I don’t know if Garth Mullins ever discovered his unconditional, intrinsic wholeness, but I know that I have, and I know that I’ve helped many people discover and enjoy their own unconditional wholeness (or belonging, love, success, clarity, well-being, goodness… there are many names for what we are talking about here).

It isn’t hard to stop grasping, and to start allowing yourself a rich and satisfying life. It really just comes down to making incremental changes in perspective, changes that anyone who is willing and ready can make.

I’ve outlined these changes in my enjoyable, easy to follow Free 7-Day Audio Course: The Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery. As you listen, you’ll discover a methodology and mindset for cultivating joy and well-being, and you’ll get all kinds of support and encouragement as you begin allowing the richness of life to get through to you and provide the nourishment it is meant to provide.

You are meant to thrive

Your life is meant to nourish you. Life wants to nourish you. And you, at the deepest level of your being, are meant to receive and benefit from life’s nourishment. But most people are allowing only the tiniest amount of this nourishment into their experience. Emotionally speaking, they are barely surviving, when they are meant to be thriving.

The Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery is about fully befriending your innate human desire to feel satisfaction, and learning how to use this desire as a compass to guide you in every step of your life. It’s not complicated or fancy, but it might feel new, and it requires some focus to make the necessary shifts in perspective and behavior.

The course is delivered through seven professionally recorded and carefully edited audio modules, averaging twenty minutes each in length. Total time is just over two hours. High quality sound production makes listening a pleasure.

You can also listen to thirty different One Minute Meditations that I recorded to help support you on your path to easy joy and well-being.

Everything that I teach is rooted in self-love and self-trust, and this free 7-day audio course is clear, direct, and practical guidance for cultivating and enjoying these essential qualities in everyday life.

There’s no cost and no catch. The course is ad-free, distraction-free, and designed only with your well-being and satisfaction in mind. I’ve even removed the sign up requirement.

Do you want to feel good?

Only three things are required to benefit from learning The Gentle Art of Emotional Mastery:

  1. A genuine desire to feel good.
  2. Enough emotional sensitivity to know when you feel good.
  3. A willingness to be less conditional about feeling good.

The details of your personal history are far less important than these three qualities. All kinds of people from all kinds of backgrounds are benefiting from this simple but profound approach to finding personal well-being.

If this sounds like it might be beneficial for you, you can start listening right now.

Here’s the first module:

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