Marriage counselling (couples therapy) can help when there is conflict or distance within a marriage or relationship. Common issues can include money, sex, parenting, in-laws, communication, intimacy, boundaries, and differing ideas about what is reasonable to expect from a relationship. Childhood experiences and personal history, trauma, and family systems can all be factors.
Once destructive patterns get established, a relationship may need outside help to get better. Resentment, criticism, fighting, withdrawing, rage, and substance abuse are all painful signs that a marriage is in trouble. Other symptoms may be present. A skilled marriage counsellor can help interrupt the cycle by providing new perspectives, offering feedback and opportunities for insight, and teaching the struggling couple key relationship concepts and skills.
Even the best relationships can be hard. As much as they give, they also ask a lot from us. Conflict or distance in a relationship can feel extremely painful and discouraging, whether it’s new or if it’s been going on for years. No matter what your situation, change begins with a single step. Couples counselling can provide surprising insight and meaning, along with opportunities for change.
I work with individuals and couples from all over the world. Some of them are probably a lot like you. Many of my clients have succeeded in understanding and shifting their relationship dynamics or solving a specific relationship problem. My approach goes well beyond the standard advice about empathy, communication and date nights. We go deeper – delving into the unconscious beliefs, habitual behaviors, and unique personality traits that are shaping your relationship.
Marriage Counselling can help with:
- Conflict resolution
- Deepening intimacy
- Communication and understanding
- Bridging distance
- Healthy boundaries
- Sexual pleasure and healing
- Repairing hurt feelings
- Cheating, infidelity
- Negotiating agreements
- Non-conventional relationship models
- Collaborative decision making
- Parenting, in-laws, family systems
- Separation and divorce
Friendly and aware counselling for Kink/BDSM, LGBTQ, Polyamory, alternative relationships and lifestyles.
“My partner and I have both grown in amazing ways over this past 6 months, and we find ourselves coming out of this growth stage still deeply attracted to the things that attracted us to one another 5 years ago. I have learned that as challenging as growth may be, it can be seen as a great gift. I could not have done this without your counseling and guidance. I am deeply grateful.” ~ M.A.
Additional marriage counselling and couples therapy resources:
The Re-Connection Handbook For Couples – by Justice Schanfarber
Passionate Marriage (book)
Mating in Captivity (book)
The Gottman Institute (website)
Experiential psychotherapy with couples: A guide for the creative pragmatist (pdf)