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Have you tried this kind of listening in your relationship?

Have you tried this kind of listening?

There’s a kind of listening that is completely unconcerned with formulating a rebuttal or response.

There’s a kind of listening that mercifully sidesteps the critical mind.

There’s a kind of listening done entirely from the heart.

There’s a kind of listening rooted in open-minded curiosity.

There’s a kind of listening that doesn’t require you to fix or solve a problem.

There’s a kind of listening that requires nothing more, or less, than your full presence.

There’s a kind of listening that frees you from taking what you hear personally.

There’s a kind of listening that is courageous enough to hear anything and everything.

There’s a kind of listening that encourages more and more depth.

There’s a kind of listening that rests easy in knowing that there is room for the entire experience of both people present.

There’s a kind of listening where you gain nothing from making someone wrong and you lose nothing by recognizing the legitimacy of their experience.

There’s a kind of listening that has very little to do with analyzing the content of what is being said and has much to do with connecting with the feeling underneath what is being said.

If the kind of listening you’re doing isn’t working for you, try another kind of listening.

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